Commitment 06:
Integrity
Integrity is the practice of keeping agreements, taking responsibility, revealing authentic feelings, and expressing unarguable truths. It is essential to thriving leaders and organizations.
Integrity is an unbroken flow of energy and life force, congruence between what is experienced and what is expressed, and alignment with life purpose.
The four pillars of integrity
- Radical Responsibility
- Feeling our Feelings
- Candor
- Impeccable Agreements
Based on the work of The Hendricks Institute
From Above the Line
By Me:
I commit to the masterful practice of integrity, including acknowledging all authentic feelings, expressing the unarguable truth and keeping my agreements.
From below the Line
To Me:
I commit to living in incompletion by withholding my truth, denying my feelings, not keeping my agreements, and not taking 100% responsibility.
Practice It:
Our view is that integrity goes far beyond simply “doing the right thing.” It is living a life of wholeness. Use this list to scan through the four pillars of integrity in your life to discover where you may be out of integrity.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE—UNFELTS
Have I felt all my feelings around…
- My childhood
- My parents
- Any relationships that have ended
- My siblings
- My children
- My career
- My spouse
- My body
- My money
- My sexual orientation/desires
- How I use substances (drugs, food, alcohol)
- Death: mine and others
CONSCIOUS COMMUNICATION—UNSAIDS
Is there anything I have been withholding from…
- My spouse
- My children
- My extended family, parents, siblings.
- My friends: current and past
- My colleagues: current and past
- Myself
- Anyone else who comes to mind more than three times
- Emotions: anger, fear, sadness, joy, sexual feelings
- Agreements
- Judgments
- Desires, wants, requests
- Money
- Stealing
- Approval
- Comparison
- Lying
- Appreciation
- Sex
- Consumption: food, alcohol, drugs
IMPECCABLE AGREEMENTS—UNKEPTS
Have I kept all my agreements with…
- My spouse
- My children
- My extended family, parents, siblings.
- My friends: current and past
- My colleagues: current and past
- Myself
- Anyone else who comes to mind more than three times
- Sex
- Money
- Time
- Things
HEALTHY RESPONSIBILITY—UNOWNEDS
Am I blaming…
- My spouse
- My children
- My extended family, parents, siblings.
- My friends: current and past
- My colleagues: current and past
- Myself
- Anyone else who comes to mind more than three times
- My past
- My present circumstances
- My lack
- My emotional states (anger, sadness, fear, joy,
sexual feelings) - My spiritual states
- My physical condition