Commitment 13:
Allies
Conscious leaders commit to seeing all people and circumstances as allies in their growth.
Unconscious reactive leaders view other people and circumstances as obstacles to getting what they want.
Conscious leaders are able to shift out of the state of comparison to see everyone and everything as equally valuable. This perspective recognizes that all people and circumstances are allies in learning and growth.
From Above the Line
By Me:
I commit to seeing all people and circumstances as allies that are perfectly suited to help me learn the most important things for my growth.
From below the Line
To Me:
I commit to seeing other people and circumstances as obstacles and impediments to getting what I most want.
Practice It:
When we consult with leaders working on this commitment, we ask them this key question: If the universe were using this person or situation as a perfect ally to help you grow, what would you get to learn about yourself and life?
Here are additional questions to help you shift your perspective to seeing every person and situation as an ally in learning. Before you start asking these questions, first ask yourself this question: “Would I be willing to see this person and these circumstances as an ally for my learning?” Your willingness is essential for any shifts to occur.
- What is it that I could not have experienced without this person/circumstance
- What part of this am I most resistant to? Can I see that this is true about me? And am I willing to welcome/love that part in myself?
- What is my biggest judgment about the way it is? Am I willing to see that the opposite of my judgment is as true or truer?
- How is this person or circumstance helping me face something that I have been unwilling to acknowledge or face?
- What quality could not have been developed in me without this person/circumstance?
- How is the universe using this person or situation to give me feedback?
- How is this in service to my growth?
- What part of me is this bringing forward to welcome, honor, accept, or love?
- In twenty years (or two), what will I say I learned from that”?
- In twenty years (or two), what about this will I be grateful for?
Here are some possible reasons you attracted this person or
circumstance into your life:
- You have judgments you want to release.
- This is a pattern you want to break.
- The universe is inviting you to pay attention to the
wisdom in your body. - You want to expand the possibility of who you can be
and need the pressure of this situation or person. - You want to discover where you are resisting in your
life (physically, emotionally). - You are learning to see your resistance and honor your “no.”
- You have unexpressed emotions that you want to
acknowledge or feel. - There is something you’ve been unwilling to face.
