Define: Win For All
Committing to solutions that create alignment, aliveness, and benefit for everyone touched by the choice — including yourself. It’s the conscious leader’s move from “either/or” to “both/and” thinking.
Excerpt from the Book:
When conscious leaders experience an issue, problem, dilemma, or challenge, they explore possibilities with
open curiosity and from a foundation of sufficiency
and support to arrive at win-for-all solutions.
From Above the Line
By Me:
I commit to creating win for all solutions (win for me, win for the other person, win for the organization, and win for the whole) for whatever issues, problems, concerns, or opportunities life gives me.
From below the Line
To Me:
I commit to seeing life as a zero-sum game, creating win/lose solutions for whatever issues, problems, concerns, or opportunities life gives me.
Practice It:
Step 1: Name the Core Needs
- What do I really want or need?
Why does this matter to me? - What does the other person or group really want or need?
Why does that matter to them?
(Go beneath positions to what each side is truly caring about.)
Step 2: Feel and Reveal
- What emotions are here — anger, sadness, fear, joy?
- Notice the sensations in your body and let them move through.
- What stories or judgments do you have about this situation?
- Share openly and honestly what you’ve been holding back.
Step into 100% responsibility. Physically find a place in the room that represents your commitment to being 100% responsible for the situation.
Step 3: Loosen Your Story
Ask: What’s the opposite of my story, and how might it be as true or truer?
(This helps you see from a wider perspective.)
Step 4: Appreciate the Other
Name what you can genuinely appreciate about the other person’s needs or perspective.
Step 5: Explore New Possibilities
- From curiosity, how else could my needs be met?
- How else could theirs be met?
(If nothing arises, pause, breathe, and look again.)
Step 6: Take Radical Responsibility
Ask: How can I take 100% responsibility for supporting both of us in getting what we truly need?
